Does Absence Really Make The Heart Grow Fonder?

Once upon a time, the salsa scene was a big part of my social life. And then … not so much. After eight years – and accumulating what felt like a million miles on my dance shoes – I just stopped going. I can actually count on one hand how many times I went dancing last year (four) and during that time, many people have asked me: “Why don’t I see you out anymore? Don’t you miss dancing?”

Well, frankly – no. Otherwise I would have been coming out!

The sudden loss of passion surprised even me – as I thought I’d be a die-hard “dancing-almost-evey-night-of-the-week-and-goes-to-all-the-congresses” type of gal forever.  But soon, even the sounds of salsa made me cringe.

I can’t pin this desire to leave it all behind me on any one reason. I wasn’t hiding from anyone, I didn’t have an injury, but I did want to devote more time to family and friends, and give more attention to these relationships that I neglected. I also focused on my career, but for the most part and perhaps the biggest reason why I disappeared off the dance floor is that I wanted something new in my life. I thought Kizomba might be the thing to reignite the fire, but that interest was short-lived. I craved something … well, SOMETHING!

So, I’ve been exploring other creative outlets and activities, and throughout this time off the dance floor, I’ve learned a lot about myself. I have a stronger sense of self – of who I am and what I want – and I found the balance. I guess that’s what exploring can do for you. Living for one sole activity for so many years can make a person feel one-dimensional. Well, at least it did for me.

And so the question remains: Does absence make the heart grow fonder? Will I ever crave salsa like I used to? I don’t know. But I do find myself looking at the invites with stronger consideration to attend. I just may even see you out on the dance floor again soon.